Help for Adult Daughter
I am a Mom of a 22 year-old daughter who has been suffering from bulimia since she was 16. She recovered very well after a period of treatment in a children's hospital, but now seems to have relapsed. She is living away from me at university, and although I have broached the subject with her many times, she doesn't seem to want to get help this time. How can I make her see the importance of getting treatment for this relapse? Any advice out there?
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Submitted by Ottawa_Mom on November 17, 2009 - 14:59.
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An adult daughter
This very well could be my mom who wrote this post except I'm a little older and never received any treatment when I was younger but I have recently relapsed.
It is hard for me to admit that it is still an issue for me. I thought I would grow out of it by my age and I could live a normal life. I'm disappointed in myself that I haven't beat it. I also feel like I can't afford to take the time off school to deal with it although I know I should.
Although it is still an
Although it is still an issue for you, can you think of all the ways that you have worked through it? Have there been some (even small) improvements? Are there ways that you have changed over the years while dealing with this illness? You may surprise yourself...
Taking time off from work or school can be extremely difficult, especially when it is for mental health issues. There is still so much stigma surrounding these illnesses, and it is hard to receive the support you need. Take some time to consider what is most important to you, and where your priorities lie (health, love, friendship, school, work etc.)
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Help in Toronto
There is a support centre in Toronto called Sheena's Place: www.sheenasplace.org They offer similar programs to what are offered here at Hopewell, and will be able to provide you with information about hospital programs and professional therapists.
Thanks
Thanks very much for the support - it's difficult to discuss these things with family or friends. My daughter lives in Toronto...any suggestions for help there?
Support for your Daughter
Eating disorders are coping strategies for individuals during stressful times in their lives. So in some ways, the eating disorder plays a positive role, in that it allows the individual to cope with something that they find overwhelming.
Perhaps it would be helpful to try and identify what is going on in your daughter's life that could be stressful. Then, you could work together on strategies to try and minimize or reduce this stress. University/college can be a difficult time for many individuals.
Help for Adult Daughter
It must be very frightening for you to have your daughter in another city struggling with her eating disorder.
Assuming she voluntarily shared with you that she has relapsed into bulimic behaviour, I think I would take some solace in knowing that at least she is not denying there is a problem. Also remember that she is not the same person she was 6 years ago. She has more maturity on her side, plus some strategies to call into play that she would have learned while in the hospital program.
As a parent, you've already shared with her your concern for her well being. You might consider offering to help her find help where she is living if and when she is ready to seek out help again. Also, you might want to let her know that it's okay if she wants to come home.It's her call.
Whatever you do or say, it probably won't feel like enough because as a mom you want her happy and healthy. Stay focused on the things in her life that are going well and continue to keep the lines of communication open.
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